Letters to Empress By Jaes

  Have you ever found yourself justifying the way someone treats you—even when you know it hurts? Maybe someone yelled at you, insulted you, or betrayed your trust, but instead of feeling angry or setting a boundary, your mind starts searching for excuses. “Maybe they’re having a bad day,” or “Maybe they’re going through something hard.” And suddenly, the pain feels lighter because you’ve taken on their burden instead of your own. I used to think this was a good thing. That being understanding, empathetic, and forgiving was a strength. But as I’ve grown, I realize it’s been hurting me more than helping. Here’s my truth: I recently ended a seven-year relationship—one filled with love but also with pain, betrayal, and confusion. I thought I was making the right choice because she flirted with other guys, even during some of the darkest moments of my life. But despite knowing why I ended it, my mind keeps playing tricks on me. Why? Because I have a trait where I justify others’ bad...

  Some days, I thank God for the strength to walk away. Other days, a simple status update ruins my whole day— bringing back the ache, the moody silence, the longing for what once was. Two months ago, I ended a 7-year chapter. Seven years of love, heartbreak, and memories. And now, I’m stuck in a place between regret and confusion. It’s hard. It’s raw. Missing someone who was once everything doesn’t mean I’m weak— it means I’m human. Regret whispers,  “What if you stayed?” Confusion shouts,  “Did you do the right thing?” And somewhere deep inside, I know if she came back, the pain would follow. Walking away wasn’t easy, but it was necessary. I’m learning that healing isn’t a straight line—it ebbs and flows. And sometimes, the hardest battles are fought within the heart. To anyone feeling lost after love: It’s okay to feel broken and strong at the same time. Give yourself grace, give yourself time. Because love’s end is not your end— it’s the start of something new, som...